Being Alone

You know those days when things just aren't going your way? That was my day. It started off with me tossing & turning in bed. I eventually looked at my phone only to see it was 3am & I had gotten zero sleep. Then the alarm goes off, time to go to work (great!) It wasn't starting off good & it's only Tuesday.

After staying at work late to finish watching the World Cup- I had big plans to put together the new coffee table I ordered. Well, I am the worst at putting things together & I have no patience. Long story short the day ended with me calling my Mom on Skype bawling. I was feeling bad for myself, dwelling in the fact that I had nobody here to help me & I was alone.

Being alone is good for you & I do appreciate the time I get to myself. I even went to a movie on Sunday by myself but there are times when I do feel really alone. How do you shake this?

Step Back
Look at what is causing you to feel upset. For me it was that I had nobody to help me. But I had to remind myself that just because I didn't have anyone here to put together the table doesn't mean I am alone. Once I get it done I will feel accomplished (stay tuned.)

Write it Down
When I am upset or need to get something off my chest, I will write it down. I read an acting book once that said "write everything down in the morning that upsets you & face them." When you write something down you are forced to look at it & then you can move on...

Remind Yourself
I am a huge people person & tend to fill my time with friends, family etc. Sometimes this can make being alone difficult. It can cause me to be anxious about the time I have to myself. I've gotten better about it but sometimes I still get freaked out. When I get the feeling that I am alone I remind myself that I am not. Call a friend, tell them how you feel & I am sure they will cheer you up!

We all have days where different things bother us or certain situations trigger emotions. Yesterday was that day, today I am better & tomorrow I will be heading into a three day-weekend (what is there not to love about that?)

How do you deal with days like this?

Xo,

Emily

P.S. Happy (almost) Fourth of July!

Friendships

Growing up isn't easy. When you're in your twenties you experience a plethora of changes some may include: graduating from college, moving away from home, getting your first "big kid" job, getting married, having kids etc. There are many different stages that everyone goes through. Some experience it quicker than others. During these changes it can feel like your relationships with your friends are changing too. Which let's face it, it isn't always easy!

Graduating from college

College was one of the best times of my life. I was in a sorority, joined student organizations, loved my major, studied abroad & had many great experiences. College spoiled me! I am not going to lie when I graduated I was shocked & wanted to run away from real life. It was scary.... nobody prepared me for this! I went from sitting in a classroom, mingling with my friends & having little responsibility to sitting at a desk from 9-5pm. What was this?

Not to mention when you graduate your friends start going in different directions. I know I wasn't prepared for that. To be quite honest I didn't know how to prepare myself for the changes that were coming. I remember the night before I moved to DC I was in my room talking to Amber; we were trying to comprehend what our lives would look like.

Moving Away from Home

When I moved away from home to head to DC I knew I would have to figure out a way to keep in touch with my friends. Some moved away & others stayed in Salt Lake City. Being across the country isn't the easiest but I knew I would figure out a way to stay in touch. Sometimes I get homesick & the one thing that keeps me grounded is being able to call my friends after a tough day. Moving away taught me a lesson about my friendships, some were there to stay & others had been lost. But that's ok!

Getting a "Big Girl" Job
Working full time is an adjustment. It's hard to keep in touch all the time when your working 40 or more hours a week. Sometimes the last thing you want to do is get on the phone & talk for an hour. Your friends might also be working a completely different schedule than you which adds a whole other complication to keeping in touch. I have learned that if I find myself in a slump or not wanting to talk to my friends from home after work that I should  just do it anyway. It always makes me feel better! I love to hear about their days & connect again.


Getting Married

I am in this stage right now, a lot of my friends are getting ready to tie the knot. How exciting for them! I love seeing my friends happy. When this happens don't forget you're still their friend & even though they may be spending more time with their significant other they still care about you. This makes your friendship stronger because you make time for each other & ultimately get to see the best of both worlds for your friendship.

Growing in & out of relationships is totally normal. Knowing who your good friends are & keeping in touch with them is so important. They will always be there for you through the different stages of your life. Your friendships will grow more than you ever expected. Sometimes the growing pains will hurt & sometimes they will be the happiest.

How have you dealt with friendships changing? I would love to hear!

Xo,

Emily